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“…this is a ‘must read for everyone’…and yes, I do feel your pain.

Caroline Swift…..

Review after reading, “Alzheimer’s Through My Mother’s Eyes” – on my “” blog. Thank you Ms. Swift.

“I have been a nurse for 44years ,this is a must read for everyone. No one knows when something awful will happen to your love one. I know, it happened to me. This book is about being there, getting through it and trying to pick up the pieces in the end. Tears ran down my face as I read your book finally some one feels my pain. Thank you S. Brown for this book. It was written from the heart in real terms…..thank you”

10 years – a lifetime

10 years – a lifetime.

“Alzheimer’s Support” ….Book Recommendations from Authors and Other Caregivers

Honored to have my book chosen as an addition to the “Recommended Reading List” for Alzheimer’s Support.

Thank you !

10 years – a lifetime

10 years – a lifetime.

10 years – a lifetime

10 years – a lifetime.

10 years – a lifetime

Ten years. A decade. A lifetime. In August, 2004 my Mother flew on angel’s wings to Heaven. Her years of frustration, confusion, anger and fighting for her independence were now gone. Gone was her pain.

I was being the selfish one. I didn’t want her to leave. On her final day – I experienced a loss as no other. The nurses gently told us that we needed to give Mom permission to “go”…she was waiting to join my Father – but she had to know her children and family would be OK before she took her last breath. Her half opened eyes followed us as the tears fell down our cheeks. We knew that Mom was aware that we were in the room. I wanted to scream, please don’t leave Mom….not yet. Please stay a little bit longer. That was me being selfish. I didn’t scream. I moaned silently.

Growing up with her and my Father, every day consisted of “I love you”. Every kiss and hug helped shape me into the woman I would grow up to be. I was loved. It was an honor to have my Mom and Dad as my parent’s. When my Dad passed in 1999, I thought my heart would break apart and leave my body. My broken heart was followed by grief and a numb sense of reality that my Father was gone.

Now, I had to experience the loss of another and my last parent. It was almost too much to imagine.

Mom’s mind had been tortured with the nemesis and vile disease of Alzheimer’s. Since the passing of her husband five years ago, the grief and loneliness had sped up her plunge into this darkness. I was her caregiver. I watched unarmed as this disease ravaged her mind and her body. I stood by unable to stop the progress as her personality changed into someone I no longer recognized. I had to take away her independence – her home – her possessions – her car – her driving – in order for her to be safe and most importantly, well taken care of. I took it all away. That weighed heavily on me even though medical professionals had deemed it necessary for her future.

After years of phone calls, I mean up to 15 per night, the phone was silent. Looking back on the days that I almost threw the phone thru the window out of frustration – I begged for one more chance to hear her voice. Silence ensued.

Since I visited Mom several times per week, took her for walks, for coffee and muffins, bringing her to our home for dinner/lunch or a snack, out shopping, visiting friends, and driving around looking in admiration at the Christmas lights – my being was jarred to a sudden stop. The reality that I would never see Mom’s smiling face and outstretched arms again at the convalescent center that had become her home, was devastating.

My Mother was now gone. No more laughter from her beautiful blue eyes. Her arms that held me tightly for 49 years were still beside her on the bed, never to embrace me again. Her perfect lips were silent even though I waited for one more utterance of “I love you”. My beautiful and incredible Mother was at peace, finally.

Mom, I miss you more than you will ever know….I’m sorry I have been selfish.



Interview with Deena Ray

Interview with Deena Ray.

My book signing – BG Healthcare, you honor me…..thank you !

I look forward to my book signing in northern Virginia on September 6, 2014 – interacting with and helping other’s who may be in the same predicament I was in as a caregiver.

Thank you to BG Health/Emeritus for my upcoming event !

I hope I make you proud!


My book added to “suggested reading list” – for Alzheimer’s Support

My book added to "suggested reading list" – for Alzheimer's Support.

My book added to “recommended reads” for “Alzheimer’s Support”….